You popped the question and she said yes! Congratulations! Before you go down the aisle though, there may be some things that you and your fiancée should talk about in advance. One of the secrets to successful marriages is the ability to communicate with one another honestly and openly. Here are five (of many) topics we believe every couple should discuss before getting married. Talking about these important subjects will help you both start your marriage feeling ready and assured that you can tackle any issues you face together and create a solid foundation.
1. Kids and Family Planning
Having children changes the dynamics of your relationship here are a few questions you should answer together:
- How many children would you like to have?
- When would we like to start our family and what protective methods would we use in the meanwhile?
- What values do you want to share with our children?
- What are your thoughts on disciplining children?
- How involved do you think our parents should be in our parenting?
2. Finances
The merging of financial habits, accounts and ideas is a tricky one for most couples. Since money tends to be a huge issue though, we suggest starting off on the same page. Here are a few questions to assist.
- How do you feel about debt? Are you in debt now?
- How well do you budget?
- How do you feel about spending money?
- How will we cover the costs of our wedding?
- If we had financial problems, would you be willing to work a second job?
3. Living Arrangements
This topic is often overlooked but not discussing it can lead to resentment in years to come. Here are some quick questions to discuss.
- Where do we want to live?
- Do you prefer to rent or purchase a home?
- If we’re living with in-laws, how long do we intend to stay there?
- Would you mind relocating if I got a job in another country?
- What does your dream house look like?
4. Expectations and Responsibilities
Unmet expectations especially those left unsaid can contribute to unhappiness in marriage. Here are few things to discuss:
- How will we split household chores?
- Are we both going to be employed?
- How often would we have date nights?
- What should we do on weekends?
- How often would we lime with the girls or boys?
- How often do you think we should have sex?
5. Future Goals
Having a shared long-term vision will keep you connected in your marriage and relationship. Here are a few questions to discuss together:
- Where do you envision yourself in five years?
- Where do you see us in five years?
- How can I support you in your goals?
- What do you dream of accomplishing together?
- What do you want to accomplish together?
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